What If They’re All Right?
What if everyone is right? What if everything you are told is right? What if all Religions are right? What if all teachings are right? What if every person that disagrees is right?
But … how could this be? Surely one person must be right and the other wrong?
But, but, but …
Suspend your judgement and consider this for a couple seconds, imagine what it would be like if it was possible that everyone was right? What would it mean?
How could everyone be right?
Well, if you suppose that everyone is right, then to allow for that you must assume that nobody has the complete picture. Several people can stand around a statue and take a picture of it. All would have an accurate picture depicting the statue, but none would have the entire statue in the frame.
Perhaps, all teachings point in the same general direction of Truth. Perhaps some are just pointing from behind, above, under, the left, the right or some other direction relative to that Truth.
What are the implications of supposing everyone is right?
Better Communication and Conflict Resolution
If everyone is right it means that from where this person is standing, he is completely justified to think, and feel and say what he is saying. So is that other person.
If you assumed the person you are talking to was right, you wouldn’t get defensive to what they are saying, for they are right. They might not see the complete picture but from their perspective they are justified and it is valid for them to interpret their reality the way they do.
A very interesting and very important consequence of this is that if everyone is right, it means that you are too. Let me repeat that, it also means that you are right too. It means your perspective is valid and true for you. It means that you are justified to think, feel and act the way you do.
Now this does not mean that any action taken is necessarily the best. But for the person taking it, it does mean it is the right one, at this time.
A natural compassion arises and also a tolerance of differences. If everyone is right and you are right too, then there is no more need for you to justify yourself. No need to prove yourself. For you know you are right. If someone invalidates your perspective it doesn’t mean you are wrong, it means they are right. It means that from their perspective they are right. That doesn’t make you wrong.
Most conflicts arise from a misunderstanding of this. Most problems in relationships arise from a conflict of communication. One person feels right and the other wrong. This polarity causes disagreement. It causes problems of self-worth, of self-esteem. The Ego gets involved and things can turn nasty.
All conflicts of communication can be resolved by considering the perspective of the other party. If you can actually understand what the other party is thinking and feeling, then there is no more conflict.
There can now be co-operation and co-creation.
What if your angry neighbour is right? What if he is justified in feeling that way? What if you too are justified feeling bothered at his anger? That too is valid.
Anytime one perspective is right and the other made wrong, problems arise.
Is modern medicine better than shamanic rituals and traditional Chinese medicine and plant based therapy and energy healing? Is it wrong simply because it is not based on some scientifically peer-review article or study? In science everything seems to need to be based on a scientific study. If it isn’t then it isn’t science, therefore not true.
But what if it all were true? What if it all worked? Perhaps they simply don’t work all in the same specific areas. Perhaps you don’t actually need to know how they work. You don’t need to understand the mechanics of a bike to ride a bicycle.
More Self -Trust
If everyone is right, opinions loose their unbearable weight. They have weight in the first place because you think some are right and others wrong. But if all are right you simply detach from caring what other people think. Because everyone is right, no one is right, and you are also right. If everyone is right, you end up doing what feels right to you. There will always be a person who says what you are doing is right and another that says it is wrong. But if both are right, then you get to decide for yourself what is right. And at the end of the day that is the only thing that really matters. Do you feel what you are doing is right? If not, don’t do it. If so do it. This means you will have more self-trust.
You limit yourself when you assume right and wrong. You open yourself to opportunities if you assume the other is right from the get go. Yes, assume they are right. Not all of it may be valid but don’t limit yourself by cutting it out because it doesn’t fit your current reality. Assume you may be missing something. Be open. Maybe they’re right too.
So, I’ll leave you with this?
What if I’m right?
But more importantly, what if you’re right?